Li-ann: My fiance and I have been discussing our future family life together. One of the things we can't agree on is my work – he wants me to be a full-time housewife. How do I convince him that I can still be a good wife, mother and career woman?

Many times, people have certain expectations due to their upbringing. Chances are your fiancé’s mum could have been a full-time housewife and he grew up having his mum there for him all the time. Or, his mum was a career woman and he felt that she was never there for him, and doesn’t want the same for his children. Try to see things from his point of view and where he’s coming from. Perhaps you could suggest to him to let you give it a go – to balance your roles as a good wife, mother and career woman. But, you must also be open to making some adjustments if eventually you’re not able to cope as well as you thought you would. After all, a marriage is about give and take.

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