If you are looking for a serious relationship, there are 2 categories of men you should avoid. The time wasters and the players. In Part 1 & 2, we have talked about the time wasters. In Part 3, we are going to discuss the player.

Category 2: Players

This is the ideal type of man to date if all you want to do is have lots of dates and do lots of fun things with them.  The player is someone who has a strong need to be surrounded by beautiful women, so he will put all of his time and effort into pursuing different women who meet his high standards of beauty, intelligence, and other superficial characteristics he decides are important. 

He knows how to flatter a woman, make her feel good, and get her to swoon over him in so many different ways. He will cite 50 best love quotes of all time. Yes, the player is a charming and interesting man who understands how to treat a woman very well for the sole purpose of getting her to stay “hooked” on him and continue giving him what he wants in the relationship.  She may think he has her wants and needs at heart, but the reality is he only cares about her needs just enough so that he can get her to continue fulfilling his needs.  In other words, he doesn’t really care about her; rather, he cares about making sure she is focused on doing what he wants, when he wants, and how he wants.

A man who is a player will spend most of his time focused on trying to “conquer” a particular woman; it’s the thrill of the chase that he’s after, and only the chase holds his excitement an and interest for any length of time.  Because of his, a player is usually not interested in any kind of a commitment; in fact, he’ll actively avoid any woman who shows even the slightest sign of wanting something more than just a casual dating relationship.

A player doesn’t put a lot of thought into what the woman is experiencing, either.  For instance, he’s not interested in identifying her needs and attempting to fill them in any way; rather, he’s interested in making sure she pays attention to his needs and that she focuses on meeting them as much as possible.  In other words, it’s all about him.  Period.

Some advice on how to avoid players…

Practice enlightened equality. Do not play mind games or indulge in emotional blackmailing. And do not take his games. A strong and lasting relationship is built on mutual respect and trust, not on games.

And last but not least, appreciate and respect the characteristics of the nice guys such as sincerity, stability and loyalty. They may not be as fun, exciting, intriguing or suave. But these are the qualities that would make a relationship work in the long run.

Remember: Smart woman only date the marrying type! 🙂


This is the end of this 3 part series of 'Are you dating the marrying type?'