Have you watched Transformers 2?
Apart from the big machine slugfest, one of the highlights of the Hollywood movie is of course the love story between the two leads. And in the sequel, the guy and the girl are bickering over who should say I love you first. Both sides are not willing to say it before hearing it from the other person.
Hence, one of the questions that people ask when they are in a relationship…
“Who should say ‘I love you’ first? The guy or the girl?”
Many guys and gals are worried about being the first to say ‘I love you’. Because..
- they do not want to lose face, just in case the other person does not feel the same.
- they do not want to jump the gun, because it might be too early in the relationship.
- they are worried that they will lose the upper hand in the relationship.
The reasons are endless.
I think there is no hard or fast rule to it.
And sometimes, one party just has to take the risk. Afterall, not everything in life is about ‘face’. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is going to perceive you differently just because you are the first to say ‘I love you’, then he or she is probably not worth your time. Frankly, I will be really flattered if my guy has the courage to tell me he loves me, and not worried of coming across as not being macho enough.
Of course, there is a time and place for everything. If a guy tells me he loves me on a first date, I would really freak out.
At the end of the day, just do what feels right for YOU. Do not play mind games.
Because after all, you do not want to be like the guy and gal in Transformers 2. Uttering the 3 little words only after almost going through the valley of death! 🙂
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