Till death do us part…
Had the weirdest conversation with the significant other the other day.
“Hey, if anything happen to me (touch wood), you must remarry ok?”
He looked at me with a puzzled look.
“Hey, I am serious… you better make sure she is a good mother, so she will look after our darling son!”
Erm, sounds quite morbid, the entire conversation, I know. And frankly, I am also quite surprised that we were having such a conversation. The younger me would have never said something like that. I cannot imagine another woman being married to my husband, even if I am no longer around.
He kept quiet.
The significant other then said…
“You too… if anything happens to me, find a good man. A good father.”
“A good husband,” he added.
And suddenly, my eyes were brimming with tears.
I blinked back my tears, but the emotions were just too overwhelming.
“Ok,” I said… but actually in my mind, I remembered this elderly English lady in her 70s whom I visited weekly during my boarding school days.
Her husband died when she was about 50 years old. And even though she has many male friends, and some who expressed interest and asked for her hand, she never remarried.
Out of curiosity, I asked her, “But why? Don’t you ever feel lonely?”
She said, “My dear, my husband has given me so much love… and his love will last me for this life time…”
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And maybe that is why, when I said my wedding vows 1.5 years ago… I did not say… “Till death do us part”.
Instead I said,
“I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward and for all eternity.”
I know…
I am a romantic.
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April 4th, 2007 at 8:04 am
wow, such a touching post that touched my heart so early in the morning
I guess evyone would want their other half to live their life to the fullest and always want them to have the best & most important of all, to be happy no matter what, eventhough some circumstances doesnt permit them to accompany their other half or to be there for them throughout their life.
April 4th, 2007 at 7:15 pm
Hi Carol-
Glad that I touched you this morning.
Yup… we will definitely want our other half to be happy… even though we cannot be there to accompany them.
April 5th, 2007 at 11:17 am
i guess such value of never remarry os rare in our society…
being in the social work sector, we see parents wanting to remarry because of some flaws that they find in their partners…dont they themselves have flaws too? “no one is perfect, you see.”
in the past, the parents will keep the marriage for the sake of their children….now some can’t wait to pass the children like a parcel to the other party….
for me, i want to be like the old woman….and love my wife for eternity
April 6th, 2007 at 12:20 am
Actually, it’s not weird nor morbid. My friends have all had that kind of conversation with their wives… as they say, it’s better to be prepared.
April 7th, 2007 at 1:04 am
Hurrah for romantics!
We need more of them around.
April 7th, 2007 at 11:25 pm
actually i mentioned “what if i die” to my wife…think it is still a taboo suject in asian context
April 9th, 2007 at 5:57 pm
My dad had passed away for over 20 years and though I’d started to urge and encourage my mum to remarry since I was in my teens, she never did because to her, nobody would ever come close to being what and who my dad was. So great her love was and is to my dad that I will never ever cease to be amazed at how great and wonderful love can be.
April 10th, 2007 at 12:56 am
Hi Jhong Ren/My Wedding Blog-
Can see that you and your wife have a really great relationship! 
Good for you!
Rudy-
Haha! Yeah… you are right… even though it’s mostly taboo in Asian society, better to be prepared.
Iblogme-
Haha… when you need a dose of ‘romantics’ you can always drop by here! 
Yay!!!
Piggy-
Thanks for sharing your parents’ story with us… and I guess your mum is just like the elderly lady I know… nobody will come close…
April 11th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
I love your wedding vow. It’s beautiful.
April 12th, 2007 at 10:47 am
Kea, thanks!
(blush) Haha! 
Anyway, how are things goin on your wedding planning? So excited for you man!
Let me know if you need any help! 