Romance is Dead?
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The result of a recent poll in UK showed that 80% (of the 8500 people) agreeing to the statement - romance is dead. Capital 95.8, a local Singaporean radio station did a similar poll, and 85% of the 100 people polled agreed.
They interviewed me to ask me what I think.
I think… it really depends on how we define romance. Hollywood has dramatized romance. Romance is commercialized. Romance is connected with flowers, fine dining and jewellery. Romance is about sweeping a girl off her feet. Romance is about holidaying in the Caribbean.
So, does this mean if you are cash-tight or pressed for time, then romance is virtually impossible?
Well, to me, true romance is about growing old with my other half. It’s about holding hands even when our hands are old and wrinkly. It’s about walking home and sharing an ice cream cone on a hot humid day. It’s about sitting at the neighbourhood park, looking at our grandchildren playing in the sunset.
I don’t need the $150/each bouquet. I would rather have that loving peck on the forehead in public when he thinks nobody is looking. I don’t need that 2 carats diamond ring. I would rather have those ‘jack in the box’ games that he plays, popping out from a place I least expect it, tickling me with laughter. And I don’t need that expensive Caribbean holiday. I would rather have his reassuring presence everyday, and when we are apart… a phone call everyday to check on me to make sure that I am ok, no matter how late at night.
Is romance truly dead?
I think… romance is an attitude; it is a state of mind.
What do YOU think? 
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July 27th, 2006 at 3:45 pm
hi, i think there’s a misconception that ‘romance planning’ should culminate in something romantic. some kinda ‘grand event’
my idea of romance is closer to yours i think. cuddling with my loved one while watching tv. a soft kiss on the cheek when i come home late at night. a meaningful sms sent in the middle of the day.
something simple and meaningful is how i see it.
July 27th, 2006 at 9:32 pm
This post just validates my belief that my marriage never had that real romance to begin with, which is why it never lasted.
Hmm, you just gave me an idea for a post, Violet. Hope you won’t mind my ’snitching’ some portions of this entry, with reference to you of course.
July 28th, 2006 at 9:36 am
romance is, having that feeling in the heart with a special thought behind the action. and i agree with you. little actions, as long as it is meaningful to the one, is romance too.
July 29th, 2006 at 8:10 am
[...] PS: I thought of writing this piece after reading this post by Violet Lim. [...]
July 29th, 2006 at 4:31 pm
hi! interesting post you got here.
i agree with you. romance is in the heart. it is showing your love one in every little way how much you care for him…a kiss on his cheek anywhere at anytime.
July 29th, 2006 at 8:20 pm
i agree with u which is why i dont understand why men would rather wait till valentine’s day n spend their hard earned money on flowers which cost so much less on other days, when one rose a day is SO much better than a whole bunch on ONE day, then they wither faster and all at once too! *sigh* they will never learn….
July 29th, 2006 at 11:28 pm
I would rather have that loving peck on the forehead in public when he thinks nobody is looking. nothing beats that… guys actually doesnt need those extras to be romantic. when a person feels it, it comes naturally.
July 31st, 2006 at 1:03 am
Hi All-
Thank you for all your comments!
Guess sometimes, we are just so brainwashed by Hollywood to think that romance is all about the big things, but truth is… it’s the frequency of the small gestures that counts. 
And Rudy - hey, thanks for linking me… getting lots of traffic from your site.
Sincerely,
Violet
December 4th, 2006 at 10:43 pm
Hello Violet,
Just thought of dropping a line to say that I enjoy reading your blog.
Arianna
December 8th, 2006 at 2:41 pm
Hi Arianna,
Welcome to my blog!
Am glad that you enjoy reading my blog… really appreciate your encouragement! 
Sincerely,
Violet